I Quit Trying to Be Better Than You

That’s it. You win. If life is me compared to you then I am giving you the trophy. I have spent my whole life always trying to be better than someone else. Whether it is sports or school, love or recreation, it has always been a competition to be better than everyone else. From the beginning, everything in my life has always been weighed in comparison to someone else. Success or failure was not dependent on what I did alone, but what I did or how I look in comparison to someone else.

What do I have, compared to everyone else? How smart am I, compared to everyone else? How talented am I, compared to everyone else? How do I look, compared to everyone else? How do I _____________, compared to everyone else? At some point in my life, being better than I was yesterday just wasn’t good enough, I had to be better than you too!

But, I’m done with the comparison game. I’m done with trying to be better, look better, act better, or do anything else better than anyone else. This isn’t me saying I am going to stop working to get better at what I do or who I am, this is me saying that I am going to stop looking at you as a gauge for my own achievement.

Comparison is dangerous and it starts at the calculation.   You know, that moment when we look at someone else to see how we are doing.  We all have that ability to calculate how we compare to them. It creates a lack of satisfaction because we become never enough. We are always coming up short in comparison to someone else. There is always someone who is smarter, wealthier, better looking, more talented, has a bigger following and a prettier girlfriend. So, whenever we finally achieve the “grand prize” of being better than someone else (who we probably don’t like very much anyways), we just stepped in line behind someone new and the comparison process starts all over again. We are never satisfied, we are never fulfilled, and we never feel accomplished because we feel like we are always one step behind someone else. I quit. I quit trying to measure myself to other people.

Instead of wasting all of that energy on being jealous and envious of other people, I am just going to focus on who I am and how I can be a better version of the person I was created to be. I quit trying to be better than you because I already am better than you. Aside from this being one of the most conceited things I’ve ever said, its true within context. The moment I quit trying to be someone or something else and step into my own destiny is the moment I become better than you. The reality is, when it comes to being me, I am better than you! When it comes to being you, you are better than me. Quit trying to be someone else and just be comfortable being you. There is no need for me to compare myself to anybody else because they don’t compare. They aren’t me and they aren’t suppose to be me, so why would I compare myself to someone who was created for a different purpose? If you really want to compare yourself, compare yourself to the person you were yesterday because that is the battle that really matters.

7 Comments Add yours

  1. Anonymous says:

    Oh my gosh!! Such a great post. Good Job!

  2. Chase Merrell says:

    Good stuff dude.

  3. L. says:

    So true! I tend to compare myself with others, especially with my walk with God. I see them being more “spiritual” than I. Also, I hear them saying how they hear God’s voice. “Why don’t I” I ask. That’s a great perspective to have that you should compare yourself to who you were today, not your neighbor. Love all your postings! Thanks a lot i’ll definitely be thinking about what you said.

  4. letsflyxaway says:

    This is so true! Thank you for posting this, I really needed to hear this!

  5. Meg says:

    Wow Brett! Wonderful and this is exactly what I needed to hear at this moment. I am a hard core perfectionist, so it is always a struggle to meet my own standards as well as others. Thank you! 🙂 We can help each other remember this.

  6. Michelle says:

    Oh, B-rett! You are such a philosopher!! I completely agree with you! As I was reading, I was worried until I got to the part where you said you weren’t going to quit trying to be better than the person you were yesterday!😉

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